Have you ever felt uneasy in a gathering or felt the urge to leave the restroom when someone enters? Have you felt to run away from that speech or a toast for a best friend of yours? Well, it is not only you who experience that feeling, but there are many out there who does feel the same way. This kind of feeling to run away from being public or getting nervous of being in the limelight could be for the reason of being Shy.
One cannot get out of the shy feeling within a day or in an overnight. It takes its own time and with constant effort and practice only, one could get through it. Being shy is not specifically classified for introverts, even extroverts at times do face such a situation. A little bit of exercise in this regard and development of self confidence is the key to crack the shell. Once the shell is cracked, then everything would be history and you could very well get rid of this kin of thought or feel.
On a research conducted by Dr.Bernardo.J.Carducci, shyness is basically based on three components.
- Self Consciousness in excess.
- Excessive Negative self evaluation.
- Excessive negative preoccupation.
Once these factors are overcome, then the job is half done in getting red of shyness from you. To help you to get of shyness, given below are few remedies that could be implemented on a day to day basis to overcome the feel and thought of being shy and thus ruining your enjoyable moments in life.
Tip1- Figure out what makes you shy
The first and most important step to get out of the cocoon is to identify what actually makes you shy. Once this is done, then the work is almost done. Mostly it would be getting shy to appear in a crowd, doing something new, exploring something different etc. In all these situations, try saying to yourself the mantra “I” like “I can do this” , I have something to offer”, “ I look great” etc. This would increase your level of self confidence.
Tip 2 – Build your self confidence
All of us are gifted with certain talents that they could offer to the world. Think about what you could o rather than what other think of you or how they would see you in that angle. As being gifted, every person has their own flaws and disappointments. Therefore rather than worrying on what others check on , you check for yourself and be content in what you do. As most of the time, most of the people do not have the time to check on others and when you spend your time thinking, you waste your life and confidence in yourself.
Tip 3 – Stop Comparison
Understand the fact that all the five fingers of your palm are not alike. Similarly, no two individuals are alike. You should never compare yourself with anyone around you. YOU are YOU and never try to be somebody else. The actual YOU does have great wonders, but you do not realize it when you compare yourself with others, as you try to see only the positive side of them and the negatives are not seen. This makes you feel that you are dwelled with negatives. You have your own positives that the other person may be envying. Therefore, never compare yourself with anyone around you.
Tip 4 – Find your strengths
Each one of us do have something special in us. Try finding out that “something” in you and focus on it. When you start doing it, you would love what you are doing and great results would be observed. This would gradually increase your self confidence and realization of yourself and where you could stand apart from others. This understanding boosts you up and thus would enable you to slowly get the nutshell cracked.
Tip 5 – Be comfortable
Initially be around with people whom you feel comfortable and who try to bring out the confidence in you and get the YOU out of YOU. This would help in the long run as this would help you to slowly place yourself in larger gatherings and help you to loose fear in public.
Tip 6 – Focus on other people
When you start to realize what is actually happening around you, you get to understand that you need not worry on any aspect. Get to understand people around you. Become interested in learning then rather than focusing on your awkwardness in social situations. This would help you to understand how they too get over their fear.
Tip 7 – Visualize
Visualization has a great impact and in-fact helps you in a long way. Always visualize yourself as a confident and enthusiastic person with lost of positive energies in you. Visualizing this often would eventually make you one of that kind. Similarly when you have to come up into something that you are shy of, visualize the situation a couple of times and this would help you to overcome the situation easily and organize yourself as per your liking for the situation.
Tip 8 – Affirmation
Your inner conscious has great powers and your mind could be manipulated by your inner conscious. What you say is what you are. The more often you say you are shy and scared, you become one. On the other hand, the more often you say you are smart, confident and energetic, you become that. Therefore always feed your inner conscious with positive energy thoughts and you could feel the difference for yourself.
Tip 9 – Accept Rejection
Failures and success are part of life. You must learn to accept the fact that failures do happen and the most important thins is , do not take it personally. It happens in everyone’s life. Learn lessons from these rejections and failures. The lesson that you learn at each failure is indeed a blessing in disguise as that equip you to be a better and stronger person and gives you a better understanding. Do not lose heart, move ahead and when you keep trying, it will definitely pay off. After all, life is like a mountain, for every downfall, there is an upcoming. So never feel disheartened and believe in yourself.
Tip 10 – Practice to be in uncomfortable situations
Running away from any uncomfortable situation is not a way out. There will be no end if you start running, instead face the situation and try getting out yourself. The more you force yourself in uncomfortable situations, the better you get out of your shyness and fear and this helps you gradually to enjoy the situation at a later stage.
Tip 11 – Focus on the moment
Focus on what you are doing rather than thinking what you are doing. For example, if you are talking to someone, focus on the words that you pick to talk, the tone used, the abbreviations as all these matters, rather than focusing on your looks and how that might affect the talk. When you try doing that, you could neither concentrate on your looks nor the conversation, which gets irritating to the listener. Instead do one thing at a time and that makes you feel relaxed and the other person feel important.
Tip 12 – Loosen up at times
Never try to be uptight on everything that you do. Loosen up at times, otherwise you may feel that you are not doing something that is right and this may cause uneasiness in you. People like to be in fun and energetic company rather than those worried about their looks and presentations. Try becoming interesting and enjoy life that is in front of you.
Tip 13 – Chase your dreams
Follow your dreams, even if they seem to be impossible. When you accomplish your dream, you feel very confident. This not only increases your confidence level, but also would help you in having a subject to talk about, when you are in a gathering and looking out to start a conversation.
Tip 14 – Record your success
On this journey, gradually you will start to overcome the condition named shyness or low esteem and you could see the difference in yourself .You start to view yourself differently and would recognize that you have become more comfortable and confident in situations that you feared before. Make a journal of your success. This would not only help boost your confidence, but you could understand the difference in you for yourself. Appreciate yourself. You start to feel anew YOU in you.
The journey to get over the fear and shyness in you is not an easy task. With great effort, courage and strength, you could achieve all that you have dreamt of and seen in others. You could stand taller, happier and more confidently that ever before, once you have broken the shell. Experience the new YOU………….