Tip 11: Go for a firm handshake.
A nice and firm handshake feels really well and shows that you carry a positive feeling for the newly acquainted person. It plays a key role in building trust between people who have just got to know each other, be it personal, business of friendly relations. Remember that starting any acquaintance with a casual handshake shows the lack of confidence and good feelings for the other person. Also starting a new relationship with a person, without giving them a gesture like handshake shows lack of trust and friendliness. Thus, it is good to mirror the other person’s handshake as it matches their expressions.
Tip 12: Study others
When you start changing your own body language or start using some tips given to get better response from your conversations, it becomes equally important that you start studying others and their body language. Like your own body language reflects your inner self, so goes with the other person in conversation. When you admire certain people and want to be like them, you are more likely to learn by carefully observing them. Also, if there are certain people whom you dislike, you must be alert not to repeat the gestures that make them repulsive in your conversation with someone. Thus by studying others, you can bring striking changes in your own body language.
Tip 13: Lower your Tone and Voice
People with a loud tone or voice are often counted as dominating. There are some places like debates and speeches where they do well but on a personal conversation it goes really negative on their front. If your case is such, it is important to put in deliberate efforts to lower down your tone and volume. A pleasant level of baritone is always welcoming and will pose you as a polite and poised person. Like our gestures present your confidence and honesty, your tone and speech volume determine your elegance and down to earth attitude.
Tip 14: Never scratch your head
Scratching your head or moving your fingers through your hair can create an image of casualness in your attitude and make you sound unintelligent. This is a part of mannerisms and counts in your etiquette in any kind of conversation. A person who is usually putting his/her hands in the head or in twirling their hair is seen as inattentive and disinterested people. So, stop this habit completely by checking yourself every time your hand tries to reach your head as this will actually improve your own confidence and make your feel aware and alert of the surroundings.
Tip 15: Do not rub the back of neck or head
Rubbing your neck at the back shows that you are lacking interest in the conversation and are somehow trying to get away with it. This gives a quick indication to the other person that you are trying to leave the place at once. This may turn your prospects of benefiting from the conversation bleak. Again it is something that you must keep a check on and never do, if the conversation is really important for you. Your small gestures can speak more than the words of your mouth.
Tip 16: Do not bite your Nails
Not that biting your nails displays a poor confidence level or nervousness, but it is a distraction and also not a good manner. It reflects your inner confused self and is not good to see. You usually tend to bite nails when you are in deep thinking. You should avoid biting nails as it is not a sign of positive body language and can prove negative in any conversation’s results.
Tip 17: Sit in an Engaging position
An engaging position is essential to make your confrontation possible with someone. Usually two people seated and conversing have a table or desk separating them and one can try to sit at an inclination at 45 degree. It makes the position comfortable and provides the space essential for an efficient communication. This is suitable for mirroring and engaging in other person’s talks.
Tip 18: Never be Dramatic
Don’t act while you talk or convey anything to someone. Be it a fact, an experience, an explanation or an answer that forms the conversation, you must not overact and make exaggerations of expressions or gestures. Be careful about the choice of your words as well as never use exclamatory remarks repeatedly, as an overuse creates an impression of fakeness. Do not think that you can impress others by posing something. Being honest and acting like your own self is important to make a conversation sensible. Never act smart as people are smarter than you.
Tip 19: Don’t touch your face
Touching your face while talking is a sign of dishonesty. People touch their face when they are nervous or afraid of confrontation. They comfort themselves by placing their hand on the face. Many people do it unknowingly and consider it a normal gesture that doesn’t interrupt the flow of conversation. However the person you are talking to can see your under-confidence hidden beneath your words and may not be able to trust what you say. You must therefore be careful and have control when your hand tries to reach your face.
Tip 20: Trust others
It is important to believe in the person you are conversing to actually carry on a fruitful conversation. Without adequate trust, you shall fail to benefit from following any tips. You should first understand the other person’s relation with you, be it personal, business or professional and base your conversation on a mutual trust. Your body language will carry confidence and frankness only if there is an element of trust in the other person.
Tip 21: Relax
Having learnt about the ways to see changes in your body language, you must have somewhere felt overdosed. So this final day tip is to keep your tension away. Learn to relax and comfort yourself. The more comforted and natural you are ,the easier it shall be for you to adapt to the suggestions for improvement and see yourself as an improved and confident person with a positive body language.
By understanding what looks good and what doesn’t as a part of your communication skills, you can see dramatic difference in the engagement factor with others by means of your body language. For those who have been lacking socializing skills owing to poor body language, this is definitely a Good News. Other than social habits, an improved body can help generate a new confidence in you as you walk up to interview panels.
Although no gesture is universal, yet I have tried to share with you more frequently derived meanings of certain gestures and habits of certain people. Cultural differences may result in the distinction of appropriateness or inappropriateness of certain ways to behave. In addition to the tips given above, another one is to close your eyes and visualize yourself behaving in a particular way or giving certain gestures. Self-observation can help improve your body language to quite an extent.
I wish that you will be able to work on these tips and see a positive change in your self-image by gradually getting used to the right body language.